Just received an email from one of my online coaching students.  We are on a break right now till April, so I'll be posting the answers to questions for my students.

Question from a workshop student:
I have been using the "finger touch anchor" you taught us, it was working great for creating a calm state for a few months.

But lately when I try to use the technique it doesn't work. I'm touching my fingers together just like you showed us, but my anxiety doesn't stop, I'm not getting the change I was hoping for.

Is it the same thing as "trying" to do something, when I hope the technique will work? I know you told us not to "try" to do an exercise or technique. I even wrote down what you said, "Just do the exercise and see what happens, don't try to make anything happen". So what can I do to change what I'm doing so the techniques work again?

I'm think that I'm having trouble understanding what it meant by not "trying" to do something.  In my mind there are very rare times when I jus...